Octo-Mom - Irresponsible!
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Octo-Mom – Irresponsible!
Nadya Suleman is quickly gaining notoriety as the mother who just gave birth to eight babies by fertility-enhanced treatments when she already had six other children. Three of those six children are disabled. How can a single parent take care of eleven children and three disabled children? Isn’t irresponsible to knowingly have children you cannot take care of and provide for?
It is has been reported that Ms. Suleman receives welfare assistance and she, herself, reported to Ann Curry, of the Today Show, that she has no immediate income. She has said that she will use her student loans to pay for her kids’ necessities. Isn’t that fraud? Is it just me? She further states that even though she understands that money is necessary, she says “it’s just paper” and that “God will provide in his own way.” Okay, that paper is needed to buy the food and diapers that your eight babies will need. When you are at the cashier’s counter of your local grocery store, the cashier will not ask for “God” or for the “volunteers” that are going help you. They are going to ask you for payment for the goods purchased. Guess what? No payment, no goods!
However, even with a lack of income, Ms. Suleman still managed to hire a publicist while in the hospital. What is her real priority here? Her kids or her shot at fame? Ms. Suleman’s mother has already stated to the press that she is feed up with her daughter’s obsession to have numerous children and will not be around to help her with the kids when she returns home from the hospital. The mother is clearly burnt out by having to care for her six grandchildren. How long will it be before Ms. Suleman gets burnt out? Will she really be able to find “volunteers” to help her 24/7?
There is nothing wrong with having a large family, however, to knowingly have kids that you cannot care for, I think, is wrong. Once the talk shows and initial media interest has subsided and the money offers are no longer coming in, what will she do? Okay, she gets a job; but will she really be able to find a job that pays her enough to find babysitters for fourteen kids and still have enough to provide food, shelter and clothing? It has been estimated that her hospital bill will cost her between $1.5 - $3 million dollars.
I am the parent of an autistic child and I am quite aware of the fact that I could not take care of another child in addition to my one. Does that mean that I don’t want another child? No. However, a couple of years ago, I would have answered differently because of the overwhelming challenges and stress I experienced with raising an autistic child. Today, I would love to have that “little girl”, but I have to make sure the needs of my son can still be met while taking care of another child. Don’t get me wrong, I know there are parents out there that juggle many children with many types of needs and do just fine.
Again, how can this single mother raise three special-needs children plus eleven others with no income, no husband and whose own mother stated that she is not sticking around to help her? For her children’s sake, I hope that she gets the book deals, movie deals, TV shows, etc. If she gets these opportunities, then she will have the money to provide for her children and also hire much-needed help for child care. I find it appalling that someone would risk their children's livelihood for a shot at fame and fortune. In the end, if her golden opportunities do not pan out they way she is hoping they will, the children will ultimately suffer.
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This is a great hub. It is not only octomom and the Duggars but the majority of parents of large families. It is simply unintelligent to have large families. Children need attention and to be provided with a life beyond the bare rudiments.
Children in large families often grow up in want and poverty. This socioeconomic environment has deleterious effects upon the development of the child. In large families, parents do not have the emotional and psychological resources to devote to each child. What is the result of this? You guess it, the oldest child raise the younger siblings thus forfeiting a normal childhood and adolescent period.
Large families are just not normal. Sociological studies show that children thrive best in small families because there are more allocation of economic, intellectual, and physical resources of the parent to their children.
The large family is associated with more pathologies. Children in large families often have a poverty consciousness because they grew up with so little, also they have a more cynical and harsh attitude towards life because of the harsh environment which they grew up in.
Furthermore, children from large families are often the least educated. College is out of the question for the average child in a large family thus she/he is locked into poverty and/or near poverty status with a series of dead end job. There are many sociological books that verify what I have said regarding large families.
marcofratelli 3 years ago
I'm sure we don't know all the details about her situation, but having said that, I'm sure her publicist would have helped to secure a large fee for every media interview or to obtain footage of her children to help cover costs. I agree though it's a bit too many children to care for, even if they are all healthy. Also, I have heard stories of some women who have babies just to receive the baby bonus from welfare - ie having kids for the wrong reasons.